Smart Foster Parenting
is a resource run by us,
Ben and Deb, to teach you proven strategies that will change how you:
- Manage Your Mind!
- Build Structure in your home!
- Build Positive Relationships with your foster youth!
but what is Smart Foster Parenting?
If you’ve ever had any of the thoughts below, you’re in the right place.
“I’m at the end of my rope, and I don’t know what to do!”
“Foster Parenting is just too hard, and I don’t think I can keep doing this!”
“How can I get my foster teen to listen to me?”
“I’m just not cut out to be a foster parent!”
“I just wish I could have done more to help!”
What are the benefits of joining Smart Foster Parenting?
Stop fighting with your foster teens!
Know exactly what to do in tough moments!
Create the happy and positive foster family of your dreams.
Re-kindle the flame and avoid future burnout!
We’ve been where you are.
We wanted to quit foster parenting, we quit foster parenting, and then we came back to foster parenting!
We know just how tough it really is to be a foster parent of tough teens! We’ve blogged and podcasted about our growth and journey for over a year.
We are willing to work individually with foster families to come up with real solutions for your individual needs.
In 2008 we decided to become foster parents. We had no idea what we were getting ourselves into. So, we blindly jumped into the most challenging and frustrating rollercoaster of our life!
Pretty soon we realized that none of the training we had received had prepared us for the realities of foster parenting tough teenagers. We struggled for years, often wondering if we were really cut out to be foster parents, feeling that we has failed our foster teens and our own kids.
In 2011 we hit an all time low. Over the previous year and a half we had been accused of trying to steal a foster son’s money, of being abusive, and our caseworker was fighting us and trying to push us out of the system.
The last straw, however, was when we tried to adopt a sibling group (something we didn’t really want to do but were pushed into it by the state). We thought, prayed, and counselled as a family and decided it was the right thing for us to do, only to have the rug ripped out from under us. They were placed with another family in our agency.
So, we threw in the towel. We were done! Never to return. Foster parenting was not for us. So we thought.
During our time out, we kept feeling like there was more that we could have done, things we could have done better. We felt like we were still meant to foster parent. We felt like God wanted us to give it another try.
So, we jumped back in, only this time we were determined to do it differently. We wanted to do Smart Foster Parenting!
Not only did we start foster parenting again, but we started a blog and a podcast to help other foster parents. We new that we could help other good foster parents keep from getting burnt out, and with the right tools they could change the lives of their foster kids.
It is now our mission to help not only our own foster teens, but every foster parent and foster teen that wants things to be better.
Our first few years of foster parenting were so tough. We did so many things wrong. Those early days were so hard and frustrating, but they gave us invaluable experience. They made us better foster parents.