TFP059-Highlights From Summer Break

TFP059-Highlights From Summer Break

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Summer's over. Now it's time for the real FUN! Highlights from our summer. Our longtime foster daughter graduated from high school and Utah Youth Village. Ben's sister, who was adopted from Russia, was married in Kansas City Missouri. While in Missouri, you might as well go to Silver Dollar City in Branson. So that's what we did for 3 amazing days. School trip to San Diego. School Discipline Training in Las Vegas. Deb's family reunion riding 4 wheelers. Ben's family reunion in Duck Creek, Utah. Struggles from our summer. Ben was gone, a lot! We had two of the toughest foster kids we've ever had. They weren't that bad..., well... It wasn't like they were intentionally tough or giving us a run for our money. They were just young and needed…
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TFP058-9 Tips: How to Be Nice to Your Kids

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Nice is Not Always Easy We know that being nice to our kids is not always the easiest thing to do. We get grumpy and we get emotional and we say or do things that we regret and are not nice at all. We get very complacent in our parenting sometimes and those emotions take control. We have a few suggestions that we hope will help you in being nicer to your kids, foster or not! Make Sure to Get Enough Sleep - We know that this can be hard depending on your situation, but do your best and actively make the effort to get enough sleep so that you can be nicer to your kids. Take Deep Breaths before dealing with negative behaviors - Sometimes deep breathing isn't enough,…
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TFP054-Struggles of the Week

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Struggles are okay, everyone has them! In this episode we are talking about some of our latest struggles and what we do to handle them when they come up. What we’ve been struggling with during the past week Moody teenager Getting nervous about graduation and what happens afterward No motivation to do anything after school (no college, trade school) Comfortable where she is (doesn’t want to leave here and have to find another job) Ben and the kids have been sick Much less sleep Lower tolerance for poor behavior Sometimes we struggle with caseworkers, school/schoolwork. Just be willing to work through what is frustrating you and think of ways to help get you through the hard times Call to Action: Know that you and your foster kids are going to…
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TFP053-Helping Bio Parents

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How are you helping? Welcome back to episode 53 of The Foster Parents' Podcast! We are excited to be able to talk about this topic. Here is what you are going to learn on this episode: Why it is important to support Bio Parents & Families. Some ways that we try and help Bio Parents The importance of being positive and empathetic You can also check out our latest blog post on Bio Parents by heading over to Bio Parents Need You If you still haven't had a chance to pick up our free Ebook on Rewards Systems you can get that free by Clicking Here! Call to Action: Take a look at your relationship with your foster kids' parents & choose something that you can improve on in the next…
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Bio Parents Need You!

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What can you do to help Bio Parents? Bio parents can be very frustrating to work with. Sometimes they want our help, and sometimes they feel like we're the enemy. So what can you do about it? We feel like it is super important to help bio parents. Why? If your foster child is going to be reunified with their bio family, these are the people that will be helping that child learn and grow. We want our foster child to be able to go home to the best supportive situation that they can.  When we put forth the effort to help the bio parents/families change and learn while their children are in our care, they will be more equipped to help their children when they come back to their…
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TFP052-Making Foster Care Fun with Family Activities

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Family Activities makes foster care more FUN! I know we are here to talk about family activities, but our podcast is 1 and we're excited. In the immortal words of the cartoon Frosty the Snow Man, "Happy Birthday!" That's right, our podcast is now 1 year old. So, we've got a gift for our listeners. We've written a short ebook all about the different rewards systems that we have use, and that we do regularly use. You can grab your FREE GIFT from us here. There's one thing that makes everything a little better. When things aren't quite going like we would like them to, we've found that family activities are a good tool to get things back on track. Here's a few of the benefits: Family activities are fun!…
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Rewards Systems Part 3, Skills and Behaviors

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Rewards Systems Part 3, Skills and Behaviors Here's another post to accompany the podcasts that we recently recorded about creating a rewards system in your home, where we gave away a FREE 6 Step Guide Creating Rewards Systems. We feel that it is important to realize that we focus on skill and behaviors when we use rewards systems. Here are some skills that we commonly work on with our foster kids. If you haven't listened to these episodes, please click the link below and give them a listen. Also, grab your FREE 6 Step Guide Creating A Rewards Systems HERE! Why do we focus on skills and behavior? Skills and behavior are things that your foster kids can really work on, mostly skills. When you boil it down to a specific skill, it makes if easy for you and…
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Rewards Systems Part 2, Quick List of Rewards We Use

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Rewards Systems Part 2, Quick List of Rewards We Use! As you probably know, we recently recorded some podcasts about creating a rewards system in your home, where we gave away a FREE 6 Step Guide Creating Rewards Systems. If you were curious, here is a Quick list of rewards that we most commonly use with our foster kids. If you haven't listened to these episodes, please click the link below and give them a listen. Also, grab your FREE 6 Step Guide Creating A Rewards Systems HERE! First, a word of caution! Please keep in mind that we use specific rewards for specific situations and specific foster kids. Rewards do NO good if your kids are not interested in them. So, please don't skip the part of discussing and choosing rewards with your foster…
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TFP051-How we use a Reward System

TFP051-How we use a Reward System

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Episode #51 - Our Rewards System, and Making Them Work! It's hard to create a Rewards System without some idea of what one looks like. Here's some examples of some of the rewards and systems that we've used in the past and tips for making it all work. By the way, you can still claim your FREE 6 Step Guide Creating Rewards Systems. Download it HERE Today! If you missed Part 1 and 2, you can listen to them by clicking Here for Part 1! or Here for Part 2! First, a word of caution! Please keep in mind that we use specific rewards for specific situations and specific foster kids. Rewards do NO good if your kids are not interested in them. So, please don't skip the part of discussing and choosing rewards with your foster kids. This…
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TFP049-How To Create A Rewards System Part 1

TFP049-How To Create A Rewards System Part 1

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Episode #49 - How to Create a Rewards System Part 1 One of the questions that we get the most is something along these lines: "My foster kid won't do [fill in the blank]. What punishments should I use?" The answer is simple. Stop punishing and build a rewards system. Benefits of the Rewards System I think here is a good place to look at some of the cons of punishing compared with the benefits of rewarding. Punishments teach kids to lie, attempt to escape negative consequences, and it hurts positive relationships. Punishments motivate with fear. I'm not saying that there will never be a time to punish, but an effective rewards system can all but eliminate any need to punish. Rewards systems teach kids to be honest, self accountable,…
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