TFP057-5 Ways to Get Your Kids to Listen

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Get them to Listen Without Yelling Every parent wants to get their kids to listen. Sometimes we just don't know how to get the results we want. Sometimes I just want to amp up the volume and get them to hear what I'm saying. By the way...It.Never.Works. Follow through on Consequences - Your kids need to know that you are serious. If you always give in when they don't listen, you make it seem acceptable when they don't listen. Don't Be Their Friend - You may think that being your kids' friend is the best way to help them, but they need you to be a constant parental figure. If you are great friends on top of that, it will be because your have been consistent. Don't Do It For…
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TFP056-It’s Time to Try Something New!

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Foster parenting is hard, and we've enjoyed helping other foster parents. One thing that we've noticed is that when it comes to solving problems, it helps to try something new. This has worked for us, and it has worked for other foster parents that we have worked with. Get out of your comfort zone! Have you ever heard the saying, "There's no growth in the comfort zone and no comfort in the growth zone"? We feel like this is true in foster care too. It is when we have pushed ourselves outside of our comfort zones that we have grown the most. Some of our biggest leaps outside of our comfort zones are: Becoming foster parents going from 1 teenage boy to 2 teenage boys going from 2 teenage boys…
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TFP055-How to Do a Family Meeting

TFP055-How to Do a Family Meeting

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5 Simple Steps to doing a Family Meeting We've talked about in the past about how we do family meetings and why they are important in our home. On today's podcast we are going to talk about how we do family meetings in our home in 5 simple steps and how you can make them work in your home as well. Family meetings have a big role in helping the kids in your home feel like they a part of the family and team and a part of making decisions that affect them. Step 1: Have a sheet posted where everyone can write down topics throughout the week that they'd like to talk about. Step 2: Have a scheduled time when you hold your meeting. Step 3: Have everyone get a…
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5 Reasons to do Family Meetings

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Why family meetings should be a big deal! Family meetings can feel like a waste of time and annoying sometimes. But man do they make a big difference in a lot of aspects in your home. They have made a big difference in our home when we have used them. We sometimes get out of the habit and we definitely feel the difference. Let's jump right in. Reason #1 - Gives Everyone a Voice At family meeting we let everyone have a turn to voice their opinions about the topic that is being covered for the day. Example: If we have a topic where we are discussing what we are going to be doing for a family activity sometime that week, everyone gets to voice what they would like to…
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Let’s Make Foster Care Fun!

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We can't fix foster care... so let's make it fun! Don't get me started on all the problems with our current foster care system. I know it is not perfect, and it is so frustrating that it has caused us to contemplate quitting many a time. I realize that the system is broken, and I can't fix it, YET! But, what I can do is make it fun! Family Activities Make Foster Care Fun! Think about this. How many foster kids that you know of chose to become a foster child? In fact, even our foster kids with the worst home lives still wanted to be home rather than in foster care. Being a foster kid is bad enough. The least we can do is make it fun. Along those same…
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Rewards Systems Part 1 – Too Many Benefits to Ignore

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Rewards Systems Part 1 - Too Many Benefits To Ignore! We recently recorded some podcasts about creating a rewards system in your home, where we gave away a FREE 6 Step Guide Creating Rewards Systems. We briefly talked about some of the benefits, but more than anything we skimmed over that part and just told you how to set up your rewards system. If you haven't listened to these episodes, please click the link below and give them a listen. Also, you can still grab your FREE 6 Step Guide Creating Rewards Systems HERE! I feel, however, that it it is important to fully understand all the benefits that are in store if you put forth the work to create a rewards system. I'm not going to lie, rewards systems are work! But they…
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TFP050-How To Create A Rewards System Part 2

TFP050-How To Create A Rewards System Part 2

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Episode #50 - How to Create a Rewards System Part 2 Wowsa! Thanks to all of you who have already downloaded your FREE 6 Step Guide Creating Rewards Systems. We appreciate your support. If you haven't downloaded this yet, what are you waiting for? Download it HERE Today! Anyways, sorry to leave you hanging. We try and keep our podcast at a decent length. We know your time is valuable. So, as promised here is part 2 of How to Create a Rewards System. If you missed Part 1, you can listen to that by clicking Here! How to create your rewards system in 6 easy steps, even if your foster kids are very unmotivated. Part 2 Step 4/6: Get Buy In  Let everyone involved know about the new rewards system. Explain the benefits. Get foster kids excited!…
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TFP042 -How To Build Success Through Failure

TFP042 -How To Build Success Through Failure

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#42 - How To Build Success Through Failure One of the things that we've noticed since becoming foster parents is that everyone is afraid of letting foster kids fail. We've seen teachers who are willing to just hand them a grade because they don't want them to fail, caseworkers and foster parents who won't allow foster kids to do anything because they are worried they'll make a mistake, and bio parents who refuse to let their children re-earn trust because they've been hurt in the past. Why is it so hard to let kids fail? Let's face it, foster kids have the deck stacked against them. In fact, chances are they will struggle with life after foster care, and many will experience one failure after another. Why wouldn't we try…
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TFP041-7 Tips to Handle Hard Caseworkers

TFP041-7 Tips to Handle Hard Caseworkers

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Episode #41 - 7 Tips to Handle Hard Caseworkers As we've fostered for almost 7 years, we've noticed that it is often hard to get along with caseworkers. So, we thought that it might be helpful if we came up with a list of things that we do that help us get along with caseworkers. Know what you'r getting into. Realize that you are not going to like all of your caseworkers. Some caseworkers will be easier to get along with than others. It IS possible to get along with any caseworker. You need to be in control of you. You cannot control your caseworker. They cannot control you. No one can make you feel any emotions. Be proactive. (This one is a BIG one!) Set boundaries. Don't let your…
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TFP040-I’ve Been Rewarding…Now What?

TFP040-I’ve Been Rewarding…Now What?

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Episode #40 – I've Been Rewarding...Now What? Awesome Question! We got an email the other day from one of our listeners about rewards and transitioning away from rewards. Here's the question: "How do you transition from giving rewards for things [your foster kids do, to] foster kids doing that thing without a reward? So for example, if I explain to my foster kid what kind of behavior I expect from them in the grocery store and motivate them with the reward of a candy bar, we role play, go to the store and everything goes great and they get their reward how long do we keep this up? Do they get a candy bar for every task, day of good behavior, etc. forever?" Awesome question. So, here's what we think. Rewards don't…
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